* Yes! Hateful comments referring to my children and invitations for me to commit suicide have been removed. I have no problem with people who down right disagree with this post, and those comments remain. However, I will not tolerate such hateful comments.*
|Not talking about health or being fat in the plus size community is just as stupid as it not being acceptable to talk about sex in church. These things need to be discussed to encourage real change in our communities. True, genuine self love and confidence has a side effect. Its called change! Yet….|
*Today I wanted to come and talk about something that’s really been on my heart. I say my heart and not my mind because this post comes from a place of love and NOT just to sir the pot (start drama). My intent with this post is NOT to hurt anyones feelings or step on anyones toes, but to get you guys thinking. I encourage everyone to continue reading with an open heart and an open mind. At the end of the day, no matter the response, I stand by what I’ve said. Words like FAT, OVERWEIGHT, etc used in this post is not meant negatively…its just a description of where we and I stand. Do note that I include myself in this…I’m no different and I’m not exempt.*
Over the past view years, the number of Plus-Size Bloggers & Fashionista’s has what seems to have doubled. Plus-Size bloggers and style blazers continue open the eyes of many girls/women of all ages to the fact that we are indeed BEAUTIFUL. Just as much as the next girl, who’s a size 2! Showing us ways to spruce up our wardrobe, so we wouldn’t have to settle for the horrendous clothing made (or NOT made at all) for us. Giving us (including myself) the confidence, courage, and the challenge of loving ourselves wholeheartedly. Today I want to challenge my Plus Size Community to take this movement a step closer to home. Here’s the question I’d like to pose….
….can we preach and encourage self love and continue to harm our bodies with poor eating habits? By remaining the same and loving ourselves where we are at? Why would we love ourselves where we are, only to remain where we are? You don’t want to better yourself? Not your wardrobe…but YOURSELF? I love my blog, so I keep trying to find ways to make it better. I love my husband, so I keep finding ways to keep him happy and excited about me/us. I love God, so I’m always challenging my character, how I treat others and how I make them feel. I even prayed about this post!
I know what you are thinking. “Here we go, another person trying to tell me I need to lose weight or get healthy. I love who I am right now!” Somebody needs to say it. It would be wise to lose weight and/or begin living a healthier lifestyle (if you have not begun already). Now, I’m not saying all or none of you do, but most plus bloggers I follow don’t speak of it. Do they have to? NO! Do it for yourself, because you know it needs to be done. THAT to me is self love. It says, “I love me right now, the way I am. But I also love myself to do something about the fact that I AM overweight. I can love myself as a plus woman, but I’d love myself more as a healthy woman.”
No matter how well you dress yourself, no matter how many followers you have, it does not take away from the pressure we are putting on our bones and our feet every day with excess weight. This was a hard pill for even me to swallow. One day running around with my kids (1yr and 3yr old boys) I got tired 5 minutes in of running around with them. To the point that I just laid on the ground as Noah (3) jumped on my back and said, “Come on Mommy! Come on!” I felt terrible because I wanted to so bad. Which I did, but boy was it a struggle. I thought to myself, “I’m wayyyy to young for this.” I’m 26 guys, with so much life ahead of me. I want to see my kids grow old, and run around with my grandchildren. Those who do not have children, I’m sure you know what I mean. Getting tired/winded going up and down the stairs, after a full nights rest you wake up still feeling tired, not being to shop where you REALLY want to (lets be real), and so many other things that I won’t say, only because I’ve already said a lot. (Lol)
What I’m trying to say is…
Our weight is just as much a reflection of our self esteem as our wardrobe, how we treat others and talk about others. It’s all connected!!! We must Love ourselves enough to be 100% honest with ourselves. You don’t have to do it in front of the world, you don’t have to blog about it. Just do it for you. I am a plus girl. I LOVE my body at 238lbs, I really do. I know I’m fly, I know I’m sexy. YET…..I know I’m not allowing myself to be the best me, the best mom or wife I can be. A few weeks ago I made queso dip. I piled it on a mountain of tortilla chips, with sour creme and guacamole. I killed it okay! (Lol) It was good! However….I felt so terrible afterwards. The food also felt like it was just sitting in my stomach like a brick, not being processed, just sitting. (Yuck) At that moment I thought, Rebecca (that’s my government name lol) if you really love yourself, why do you keep eating like this? Because I love myself, who I am, and where I am right now……the thought of losing weight wasn’t so daunting this time around. I’m not doing it to look or feel sexier, because I already do. What I do not feel, is healthy. I hate being tired with all the running around I have to do with my kids, and work! Stop making weight loss seem like a negative thing, or like its insulting to suggest from a loved one. Stop hating everyone who encourages you to do so….they see your beauty, they see your potential. Now its time for you to TRULY love yourself by tackling your health/diet issues. Its a lifestyle change you guys. Its time to loves ourselves from the INSIDE out! Live, Long, Healthy lives everyone. I’ve already accepted the challenge! Join me at ThickGirlFit on Instagram & Facebook, where Skinny is NOT the goal! I like my curves, I want to keep my curves……..but Healthy curves!
(Some of you may not feel me on this and thats ok. Keep on Loving YOU!)
I started last week (again for the 100th time). Doesn’t matter. I’m back in the race. Its not going to be easy, but I’m committed to fully loving me! Meaning…I’ll get there….